About Therapy with Me

Here’s something you don’t often hear in a doctor’s office.

YOU are the customer, and my goal is to satisfy customers. In our sessions, I treat you like a customer, not a patient, and you are the star of the hour – not me.

Instead of finding a doctor who looks down on you and grasps you in their presence, how about meeting with a provider who is genuinely glad to see you and spend this time with you? After all, you are here to discover your strengths and learn about positive possibilities – not sit and listen to someone talk at you, listen without feedback, or, worse yet, dwell on what’s wrong.

Of course, you are meeting with me because you seek help – but you will quickly find that YOU matter and are the center of attention. If you are not satisfied, I did not do my job as a therapist.

Look – I know marriage.

I have worked with couples and seen them drastically meet their therapy goals in a short amount of time, not just because I am an experienced married person – for 37 years and counting.

When I say experienced, I mean I have experienced the inevitable disillusionment of marriage that no one prepares you for, the sad feeling of newness wearing off, the fading of the fairytale, and the concern that staying faithful to your marriage means a part of you must die.

I have also experienced the revitalization of my marriage. I continue working extremely hard on this marriage to enjoy this man I fell in love with many years ago. There have been disappointments, disconnects, and times when I wanted to pack my bags (and did!), but the difference is that we never gave up.

We have been able to revive our dream, which needs reviving every day because we still have daily struggles as we continue to learn what it means to bring our lives together. One thing is sure – you must stick it out to reap the benefits.

I am here to encourage hurting marriages to stick it out.

Disclaimer: I do not encourage anyone to stay in a situation where abuse is active, and a spouse refuses to change themselves and continues abusive behavior and/or continues addictive use of alcohol or drugs.

However, some of these things may have happened in the past – people can change, but both spouses must be committed to change. This is not the place for someone who thinks the other person is the problem. If it is a marriage – BOTH people must look at themselves and see what needs to change. It always takes two people to work as a team. The good news is that you will see RAPID change when you work as that true team.

I will teach you how to be a team, show you how to stop fighting each other and begin fighting alongside each other to solve the problems you face and show you how to recapture that initial perspective of the other person when you first became attracted to them and got to know them.

I am looking forward to working with you.

I can’t wait to meet you and begin working with you – because I know you will feel better after our VERY FIRST SESSION.